Posted By: Kelly Seal Date: 02-12-2019 Comments: 0
Are you single this Valentine’s Day? You’re in good company. According to the latest U.S. Census, more than half of American adults are single. While traditionally Valentine’s Day has been labeled a romantic holiday for couples, more and more singles are rebelling against this outdated notion, crafting their own ways to celebrate the love in their lives.
If you are single and wondering what to do when Valentine’s Day rolls around, we’ve brainstormed a few ideas for you. Please note: these activities aren’t for everyone, because we are all unique and we gravitate toward different ways to spend our time. With this in mind, we’ve broken our ideas down into three major camps: those tired of dating and looking to recharge, adventurous dreamers who want to explore, and social butterflies who like to mingle and meet new people.
Here are a few ways to celebrate Valentine’s Day. We hope one will motivate you to craft your own celebration!
Pay Love Forward.
Valentine’s Day is all about love, so why not give love instead of focusing on receiving it? Many people don’t realize Feb 11-17 is Random Acts of Kindness Week. This is a great time to volunteer at your local school or hospital or pay a visit to a retirement home where seniors often go neglected during holidays. Volunteer Match is a good resource if you need some help finding a volunteer opportunity.
Paying love forward doesn’t have to be time-consuming. If your schedule doesn’t permit, consider doing a small kind act, like buying lunch for a homeless person or coffee for the person in line behind you at your favorite cafe. Every bit of love you can give can help.
Sometimes a day of relaxation, massage, and quiet downtime is the perfect way to spend Valentine’s Day. There’s no shame in booking a service and pampering yourself as a Valentine’s gift to yourself. After all, self-love is important to our well-being.
Hit the road.
It’s not too late to do a last-minute getaway, even on the cheap. Think about what you enjoy doing, whether it’s sipping cocoa by the fire as you read a good book, hiking among the redwoods, or hitting the slopes – and go. Check apps like Groupon, Hopper, and HotelTonight for last-minute deals. Or just get in your car, pick a nearby location you love to visit (or have always wanted to check out), and explore.
Plan your dream trip – solo!
Valentine’s Day is the perfect time to actually plan and book your dream trip for the future. Have you always wanted to visit Paris, or take an African safari? Instead of waiting for a romantic partner to come along, take advantage of the time you have now and book your reservation. Whether you join a tour or venture off on your own, solo travel is an amazing experience, and offers you an opportunity to take charge of your happiness and how you want to spend your time without relying on anyone else. Spend the day researching your options, which will boost your spirits. Plus, if you plan far enough in advance, you can get good deals. Go for it!
Go to a singles mixer or anti-Valentine event.
There are lots of options on Valentine’s Day for those who find themselves single and wanting to meet others. Instead of swiping on a dating app, why not sign up for a singles’ mixer? Valentine’s Day is a low-key golden time to meet people to date. (And you already know other event attendees will be single…) Grab a friend and go to your local bar if there isn’t a mixer near you. The point is, get out there and meet people face-to-face.
Host a gathering for single friends.
Instead of signing up for someone else’s singles mixer, try hosting your own! Invite your single friends and ask them to invite their single friends. Don’t stress – it can be a potluck so you don’t have the pressure of buying food for everyone. Set up a chocolate bar with all kinds of holiday-inspired candy and stream your favorite rom-com for the group to watch. These are just a few ideas, but the point is to have fun.
Make dinner for your closest pals.
Instead of booking an expensive restaurant, show your love to friends by making them dinner. It doesn’t have to be complicated or fancy, just from the heart. Or ask one of your friends to help you cook so it doesn’t feel overwhelming. The point is to do something kind for those closest to you to show your love. Valentine’s Day is about love, and our friends are the cornerstones of our lives.
Happy Valentine’s Day!
Kelly Seal is a freelance writer, dating expert, and author of the book “Date Expectations: A Guide to Changing Your Dating Life and Finding Real Love.” She got her start in the dating industry by hosting speed dating events around southern California and offering advice and encouragement to attendees. She now lives in L.A. and spends her free time hiking in the Santa Monica mountains and blogging at www.kellyseal.com.