Posted By: Niki Payne Date: 11-13-2018 Comments: 0
Does being single ever make you feel lonely? Wouldn’t it be nice if your happiness quotient wasn’t at all dependent on your relationship status?
There used to be a time when the idea of being single and happy was considered an oxymoron. Almost as if being single at any point past your 30s was like a fatal disease.
But with marriage rates in decline, singles in the U.S. are finding ways to be happy alone, or “Perfectly Lonely” in the words of a John Mayer song, while holding out for true love as Amerca’s number one reason to marry.
The key to being single and happy – even when you’re alone – starts with a curious mind, an open heart and a fresh perspective. And Celine Dion singing “All By Myself” with you at the top of your lungs.
Solitude is a rare gift for many. For others, it may seem more like a punishment. But there is a beauty to be found in the depths of loneliness. One of the best perks of being single is allowing curiosity to bring your closer to your self.
There’s far more love in the world when you practice being interested rather than interesting. Before you know it, someone will eventually be interested in you because they find you so interesting!
There’s a quote by a French philosopher named Jean-Paul Sartre that goes: “If you’re lonely when you’re alone, you’re in bad company.” Develop a new relationship with yourself and start taking yourself out on dates.
Explore the roots of your soul and dance with the curves of your heart’s greatest desires. Re-kindle a childhood hobby or pick up a new one. Whatever you do, get into the habit of sharing common interests and activities with someone you love – starting with yourself first!
Being single isn’t the epidemic that’s plaguing American culture as a serious problem that needs to be solved with yet another dating app. Instead, it’s an opportunity to create your own sense of happiness.
Stand true in your commitment to the love you deserve and celebrate everytime you choose yourself instead of settling for shreds of your dignity. If you want to be happy taken, then practice being happy single first.
Being single and happy in life even when you’re alone is the highest indicator of just how ready you are for the relationship of your dreams. Everyone else you meet and date along the way is simply a milestone on your love journey with valuable lessons for moving you forward.
Since dating and self-improvement go hand-in-hand, consider every interaction in life a moment of self-exploration and personal discovery. In those moments, you will likely learn one of two things: actions worth avoiding and actions worth replicating.
How did you give love in that moment? Notice if you held back or gave reluctantly. How did you receive love? Notice how it made you felt, and if you want more or less of that feeling. What can you do to become a better giver or receiver of love? Notice what you notice and turn it into a new daily practice so you can connect with others more deeply.
Enjoy the perks of being single and happy. Expand your mind, open your heart and notice the presence of love wherever you may be in the world.
Niki Payne is a writer, speaker and certified hypnotherapist. She helps entrepreneurial singles achieve personal success using a proven 10-step Dream Coach® process. Contact Niki at www.nikipayne.com.