5 Qualities to Look For in a Compatible Relationship

5 Qualities to Look For in a Compatible Relationship

Posted By: Niki Payne Date: 03-07-2019 Comments: 0

When it comes to relationship compatibility, there are five basic qualities to look for in a potential partner.  Naturally, you want someone you find physically attractive, but at the same time, you also want someone you can connect with emotionally, intellectually, and even spiritually. Additionally, it’s important to be mindful of the relationship you each have with money as it can really make or break your partnership down the road. These five qualities of a compatible relationship will help you create an intentional partnership with someone perfect for you.

Physical Attraction

Though not an accurate indicator of a relationship’s potential for long-term success, for most people, it is the most important quality to look for in a partner. However, there’s more to a relationship than meets the eye. While attraction is a great quality to have, physical chemistry can really deepen a physical connection shared between two people long before sharing the first kiss with each other. But none of this matters if you lack compatibility in the bedroom. Find someone with an appetite for physical intimacy that is comparable to yours so you both feel desired in the relationship.

Emotional Intelligence

Physical attraction and emotional intelligence pair well together like wine and cheese. When two people are tuned in to each other on an emotional level, the physical intimacy between them can really set the fireworks off the charts. Physical intimacy without emotional connectedness can feel empty and meaningless. This is why emotional intelligence is so important in a relationship. We all have emotional needs that can’t always be met through physical intimacy. It’s important to have a partner with whom you feel safe and secure when you’re together.

Mentally Stimulating

For many conscious singles, a relationship doesn’t feel complete without an element of intellectual curiosity to dance and play with. When emotions run high, sometimes you need a little logic and reason to put things into perspective and restore balance with your own emotional intelligence system. You don’t need someone to think exactly the way you do by any means, but it is important to have a partner you can connect with mentally or intellectually. When beauty and youth fades, you need a foundation of emotional connection and mental stimulation to keep you just as connected as before.

Spiritually Aligned

Whether you’re Agnostic or Athiest, Jewish or Catholic, Muslim or Buddhist, another factor of compatibility that must not go ignored has to do with your shared beliefs and general outlook on life. For some singles, it’s important that two people share the same faith. For other singles, what’s most important is mutual respect for differing views as long as you both have similar values. If religion is not your thing, and spirituality isn’t something you jive with, think about spirituality in the context of your personal values. Regardless of your religious or cultural background, it’s important to have a partner who shares your core values.

Financially Responsible

One last important aspect of a truly compatible relationship has to do with financial responsibility. Should it really be a surprise considering that finances are a common reason for divorce? This doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re dating pool is limited by your current socioeconomic status. However, it does mean partnering with someone who values money the same way you do. Some people enjoy material wealth. Others prefer investing in experiences over nice things. Make sure you’re both on the same page with how you relate to money to enhance the way you relate to each other.

If you want to create an intentional relationship with a solid foundation, aim for these five basic qualities of a compatible relationship as a barometer for long-term relationship success.

Niki Payne is a freelance writer and certified hypnotherapist passionate about personal development and healthy relationships. She got her start as a dating blogger and lifestyle journalist before falling into a career in digital marketing. Now she’s in graduate school pursuing a master’s degree in marriage and family therapy. She lives in Los Angeles and spends her free time singing karaoke, volunteering and indulging in the creative pursuits. She can be reached at www.nikipayne.com.