Posted By: Kelly Seal Date: 07-26-2019 Comments: 0
We’re feeling the heat of summer, so who doesn’t want a little extra sizzle in their love life too? If you’ve just started dating someone special, someone you want to pursue, it’s tricky to figure out where things are headed. Is it a hot summer fling or could it be something more?
To help you decipher relationship potential, getting to know your date in different settings is crucial. This will help you assess if it’s just a crush, or if you are compatible in terms of rhythm, outlook, personality and other relationship dynamics.
Lucky for you, we came up with a few date ideas to help you assess compatibility and see if you two are in sync enough to build something long-term. Think of it as less of a test and more as a way to explore your relationship dynamics, which is the only way to truly get to know someone. This process can help you define where you are in the relationship. Plus, you’ll have some fun along the way.
How do you travel together?
The true test of a summer relationship is being in a car for an hour or more with your love interest. Plan a small trip, preferably a day trip someplace close by where you can drive together. Leave your itinerary open so there’s room for last-minute stops. If you’re nervous about making conversation, be sure to have a playlist so you can both enjoy the scenery and vibe without feeling the need to talk all the time. Don’t worry, there will be plenty of opportunities as you explore a new place together, but getting out of your familiar surroundings gives any relationship a boost.
How do you work together and collaborate?
Summer heat can be oppressive, so moods can go up and down along with temperatures. Stay cool by going to an Escape Room! These are one hour experiences where you are tasked with solving a mystery in order to “escape” – and it’s a great way to learn how you and your date are with collaborating and problem-solving together. Are you a team, or are you competitive with each other? This activity can give you a lot of insight that might not reveal itself when you go for dinner or drinks.
Does your date like to try new things?
There’s a fun way to answer this question – food truck festivals! In most cities, food trucks offer many different types of cuisine—everything from Korean/Mexican fusion to vegan Ethiopian to gourmet grilled cheese sandwiches. Plan a date at a food truck festival and make an agreement to each try something new. If your date likes to stick to grilled cheese and burgers, then you know the adventure level to expect going forward.
Does your date like to be spontaneous?
Are you curious about his interest level? Spontaneity is a big indicator. Why not call him one beautiful weekend afternoon, grab some food at a farmer’s market together, and head for a picnic on the beach, lake, or nearby park? There’s something about a spontaneous date that feels more romantic – so if he’s up for it, you know he wants a little romance too!
How romantic does he feel?
Speaking of romance, you can kick it up a notch from the picnic and go for a spontaneous evening watching an outdoor movie under the stars, or maybe sipping cocktails at a rooftop bar and watching the lights of the city below. There’s something magical about summer nights, so take advantage and make a plan.
How does he feel about crowds?
If you love music festivals, it’s good to know whether your date is cool with large crowds, loud speakers, and lots of traffic! Plan a date for an outdoor concert or festival, and if he’s as excited as you, then you know you’re on the same page. If not, but he wants to go because he’s interested in you, then he gets points for putting your desires ahead of his hesitation.
These are a few ideas to help spark your creativity and truly get to know your date – think outside the normal date activities (dinner, coffee) and take advantage of summer weather. Most importantly, have fun!
Kelly Seal is a freelance writer, dating expert, and author of the book “Date Expectations: A Guide to Changing Your Dating Life and Finding Real Love.” She got her start in the dating industry by hosting speed dating events around southern California and offering advice and encouragement to attendees. She now lives in L.A. and spends her free time hiking in the Santa Monica mountains and blogging at www.kellyseal.com.