Posted By: Kelly Seal Date: 04-09-2018 Comments: 0
Are you new to online dating, or looking at jumping back into the dating market? Then you’ve probably heard a few terms that make you arch your eyebrow in confusion.
Breadcrumbing? Submarining? You might be wondering what all these terms mean, and what you might be dealing with when you create your dating profile on a dating app. Relax, these are just new terms for bad dating behaviors that have been around awhile, updated for today’s online dating culture. It’s always good to be in the know when you hear some dating lingo being tossed around! Enjoy ten of the funniest dating terms we’ve come across.
If you see someone over on Tinder and contact her directly through Instagram’s direct messaging feature, you’re “Tindstagramming.” This has become hugely popular because it’s a way of getting around matching with someone who might not “like” you back – and connecting with her anyway. For the uninitiated – Tinder lets you add your Instagram handle to your profile, so potential suitors have an idea of your interests.
Does your date spend more time looking at his phone than talking to you? If it seems his device is getting more attention than you are, than he’s “phubbing” – or “phone snubbing.”
Of course sports terminology would have a place in dating lingo. If you are “benching” a date, you keep her on the back burner just in case your main love interest doesn’t work out or if you don’t meet someone “better.” If you want a sports analogy, she’s not your best player, but she’s there if you need her in a pinch! You have no plans to make the relationship more serious than it is. If you’re not that interested in a match, but you want to keep dating her as a backup, then you’re benching.
This is a little more insidious than benching, because it’s done all the time to unknowing daters. If you are “breadcrumbing” your date, you’re actually leading him to believe there’s hope the relationship/ messaging can go somewhere although you’re not really interested. For instance, you send random texts to just “check in” or leave flirty messages, but you never go so far as to commit to plans. You’re giving them “breadcrumbs” but leading them nowhere.
If you’re afraid of being alone, chances are you have practiced “cushioning.” This is when you flirt with several others while you’re in a committed relationship, just in case things go south. It gives you a soft place to land – a new relationship with one of your “side pieces” – should you break up. You are cushioning your fall.
Many people wait for a new relationship to get more serious before they start introducing their boyfriend/girlfriend to friends and family – this is a natural part of the dating process. But when you “stash,” you keep a relationship completely on the DL as a stopgap until you find someone else. There’s no intention of ever introducing your date to your friends and family. You’re just “stashing” until you meet your next significant other, likely because you want to avoid being lonely.
Social media has opened the door to a lot of digital flirting. One way to casually flirt with someone you find attractive is to do a “DM slide.” Instead of texting the object of your affection directly (or asking for her number to do this), you send a direct message over social media. It’s a way of flirting without the pressure of asking first.
This one’s pretty self-explanatory. When you build a relationship through messaging each other without ever actually meeting, you’re in a “textlationship.” This is not the best idea – what happens if there is no chemistry in person after weeks of intense texting? It can be a letdown. Or worse, the person you might be texting with might not be who you expected – there are a lot of fake accounts and profiles on dating apps. Be careful!
Not ready for the full sit-down dinner of a committed relationship? Then perhaps you just want a “snack” – another name for a really hot person that you just want to hook up with quickly. If you see someone as a snack, they aren’t really long-term relationship material.
Ever had an ex show up in your life months after disappearing, as if no time had passed at all? Welcome to “submarining.” Old flames that reemerge in your life after extended silence and act as though nothing happened (and never offer an explanation for the disappearance) are not treating you with respect. Likely, she feels she has you wrapped around her finger, so why put in the effort to explain the bad behavior? Steer clear of this ex.