Posted By: Jennifer Foster Date: 12-15-2016 Comments: 0
The holidays can be the best and worst of times for anyone, but being single during the holidays can bring another layer of stress to what should be a joyous time. There are many reasons we find ourselves single right before the holidays. Sometimes the pressure of family, the closing of a year and the beginning of a new year has us re-evaluating our relationships, taking stock in what we once thought we had and what we actually want.
No matter your reason for being single at this point in your life, the holidays can be an especially lonely and trying time, even for those of us who are happy being on our own at this point in our lives. What’s most important is that you don’t derail your personal progress and journey for a fear of loneliness or desire to look good in the present day.
Get through the holidays while staying true to yourself and following your path for love with these simple tips.
Get your “single story” on point. Why are you single? As you know, everyone from your mom to your boss and your BFF is going to ask you this question, so have your answer ready to go. DON’T go through the humiliation of stumbling around for reasons and sounding like a B-list actor with depression issues. Be concise and own your single status! Remember, most people in relationships glamorize their single years, and most singles wish they knew what they wanted. Be the fun single who knows what they want and you WIN.
Shop like you’re in a relationship. Congratulations, you don’t need to buy a significant other a gift this year so all that cash you dropped on him or her in the past, can now be spent on you. Change the “one for you, and one for me” saying to “two for me, and one for you”, and ENJOY all your new purchases.
Get the heck out of your home. Refuse to feel sorry for yourself! This is the one time of year where complete strangers are nice to each other, everything is decorated and music and laughter can be heard everywhere. Go shopping, people watching, enjoy the festivities and regain your sense of hope in others.
Drop the idea of how your holidays would be different if you weren’t single. Let’s be honest, some things could be better but other things would be worse. Don’t compare this year to previous years and don’t put energy into something that isn’t real. Stay focused on the benefits of being single during the holidays and remind yourself that what you think you’re missing is all in your head.
Pick up the phone. Call everyone you know. Hang out with old friends, make new friends, go to all the holiday parties and spend time with family. Enjoy your holidays as a single while you can. At some point you will be looking back at how carefree and independent your holidays were before marriage and kids. Don’t wish this time away, embrace it!
Host your own holiday party. Celebrate the holidays (and yourself!) with a party. Do all the planning, cooking and setup work. It will keep you busy and feeling accomplished while also giving you a chance to hang with all your favorite people.
Stay active. If you don’t already workout, now is as good a time as any to start. Physical activity is the best defense to the blues. Since we mostly over indulge during the holidays and when stressed, working out will give you the added benefit of keeping you in great shape for your next romantic venture.
Travel to you favorite vacation destination. Most of us have some extra time off from work for the holidays so why not take advantage and go somewhere new. Take a friend or enjoy some time exploring the world on your own. Why not? If you have the time and finances, now’s the time to do it.
Go on a date. A new year is just around the corner so why not get a jump on your dating life. Try a few dating sites, ask friends to introduce you to singles or hire a matchmaker. You couldn’t buy yourself a better gift during the holidays than a chance at love.
Do the things you love. Do the things you’ve always enjoyed doing and try a couple things you’ve always been curious about. Take a spa day, get a makeover, eat at your favorite restaurant, cook your favorite foods and go see an awesome movie. Have you ever wanted to learn more about wine? Take a class. Get out, explore and do what makes you happy.
Count your blessings. Don’t forget how much you have and how much you offer the world. Make a list of all the people who love you, what makes you special, your career, tallents and family. Remind yourself daily of your value and how truly blessed you are to wake up to a new day, your health and a life of endless possibilities.
Give back. There is nothing better in the world than having a purpose that gives to those in need. Give to a charity, volunteer your time, do random acts of kindness everyday. You’ll find an inner peace and a new zest for life every time you do something selfless for someone less fortunate than yourself.