Posted By: Kelly Seal Date: 01-26-2017 Comments: 1
We all dream of finding a soul mate – that special person who “gets” us completely, with whom we connect with spiritually, mentally, and physically.
But let’s face it, many of us have a difficult time when it comes to love, which doesn’t help our pursuit. We enter into the wrong relationships with the wrong people, we get frustrated and anxious as our hearts get broken again and again with no “soul mate” on the horizon.
In the meantime, we harbor negative thoughts about the opposite sex, dating, and romantic love in general.
Before you go out for drinks with your girlfriends to commiserate about the end of a bad relationship or another bad date, let me stop you.
If you want to manifest your soul mate, all of your negative thoughts about dating and men aren’t going to help.
Think about it – if you have a dozen thoughts and more than half of them are tied up in anger and frustration, then you’re only going to manifest more anger and frustration.
This is the theory behind the law of attraction: like attracts like.
Whatever you think about most, positive or negative, becomes your reality.
Let’s consider the law of attraction in terms of dating. If you go on a date expecting that it’s going to be a failure, based on your past experience, it will likely go badly.
But if you approach dating with a clean slate, with a sense of curiosity and the intention of having fun, you likely WILL have more fun, and you’ll both be more open toward each other.
Your experience will be more positive, regardless of whether he’s a match, which means you’ll have a more optimistic attitude for the next date.
The law of attraction creates a snowball effect.
All dates are experiences to help us grow.
We just have to reshape our focus, and turn those negative and judgmental thoughts into something positive and productive. Easier said than done, right?
I won’t sugarcoat it: Manifesting something you really want in life takes time and effort.
But there are steps you can take to make it work for you rather than against you.
With patience and dedication, you CAN cultivate the right mindset to meet someone special. Here’s how to use the law of attraction for manifesting your soul mate:
Keep a list of your thoughts about love.
Buy a journal, and start writing down all of your thoughts about dating and romantic love – positive, negative, fears, doubts, concerns, whatever you spend your time thinking about. Do this for two weeks, and notice what patterns emerge.
Do you tend to worry or harbor negative thoughts most of the time? Does it help you to write them down and mentally “release” them? Do you dwell on past relationships? When you’re using a dating app, are you judging each profile as you swipe left and right, or do you tell yourself online dating will never work for you?
This is a good exercise to understand your thought patterns, and how they create your beliefs. Recognition and acknowledgment of how you think about love, and how those thoughts might be impacting you, is the first step in manifesting what you want.
Interrupt negative thought patterns.
Since you’ve been keeping track, you might start to notice when your mind wanders to negative thoughts, usually about something that already happened or you fear is going to happen. You can interrupt negative or unproductive thought patterns by doing something physical to keep your mind in the present moment.
Meditation is an excellent tool to train the “monkey mind.” You can also go for a walk or run, dance, turn on your favorite music playlist, or do some yoga. The point is to bring yourself fully into the present moment. This is where change can actually happen.
Express gratitude daily.
One of the major tenets of the law of attraction is to cultivate a mindset of abundance. Think of all the things you already have in your life, rather than focusing on everything that’s missing. This can help retrain the brain to consider the positive rather than always defaulting to what’s wrong. When you approach life with a mindset of gratitude and abundance, it will be reflected back to you.
Visualize your soul mate.
This question is an important step in manifesting your soul mate. Many of us have an idea of what our “ideal” partner looks like, or what kind of job he has, but here’s where you need to go further. It is important to visualize.
How does it feel to be with your soul mate? Do you feel heard and respected? Do you feel loved? Does he make time for you on a regular basis? Are you ready to give love and time and energy to him in return?
Picture yourself walking with him down the street, laughing at a movie together, planning a trip, or helping him through a tough time at work.
Visualization is an important technique – it will help you truly understand what you want in a relationship, and how you want to feel. This is much more important than ideals we normally gravitate to that seem important, such as looks, chemistry, or education.
Put your dream into action.
The last step of manifesting your soul mate is to physically make space for him in your life. That’s right – clean out your closet and bathroom drawers to make some room for his things. Be open to trying new foods, listening to new music, or checking out a new neighborhood because he will be introducing you to new experiences.
Block out time in your busy schedule – and that means going out three or four nights a week and meeting new people. Don’t turn down a first date because you’re too busy – if this was your soul mate, you would make the time, wouldn’t you?
The law of attraction is a great tool for manifesting your soul mate. When you take the time and effort to create a more positive outlook about love, to visualize how you want to feel in your next relationship, and to create space for it in your life, you will see changes.
All of these steps will help you cultivate a different energy, which will help to manifest your soul mate.