Posted By: Kelly Seal Date: 09-15-2018 Comments: 0
Crafting an online profile doesn’t have to be intimidating. In fact, it’s good to experiment and see what works! Think of it this way – the more you update your profile, the more opportunities you create to attract matches. That said, we’re going to outline 5 easy steps to help you optimize your dating profile.
First, let’s talk about what a great online dating profile is. Too many daters get caught up in crafting a perfect image – trying to embody what they think potential dates might want. Instead, try being more authentic—more revealing of who you are. It’s important to do this before you meet in person. There are so many misunderstandings and a lot of misleading information when it comes to online dating – this is what gives it a negative reputation. You will stand out from the crowd if you show potential matches the real you from the beginning.
That said, if you want help on how to express yourself in a genuine way in a dating profile, we’ve listed a few easy steps for you. It doesn’t take much time or investment, but these fixes can increase your match potential – trust us!
Step 1: Delete the selfies.
This is age-old advice, but many people still use the bathroom selfie (or selfies in general) in their profiles. This isn’t a great idea if you want to attract more matches, even if you are the selfie expert! Selfies can come across as narcissistic. Plus, we often use certain angles or reflections that can misrepresent what we actually look like.
Instead, ask someone to take photos of you, and show your dates who you are through your photos. Have them take pics of you hiking, on your bike, with your guitar or surfboard – whatever you enjoy doing in your spare time. Some people won’t read the bios if they don’t get a feel for who you are from the photos, so put some thought into your pics.
Step 2: Update your photos.
Yes, online dating is visual, so it’s important to use high-quality photos and keep them updated on a regular basis. If you’re still using that amazing profile pic from two years ago, it’s time for a refresh. Likewise, if your rotation of photos is on repeat from last year, it’s time for another photo shoot. Also, don’t post group shots or photos of yourself in hats and sunglasses, as it might be hard for your date to tell who you are.
Step 3: Include engaging keywords in your bio.
The word “love” might seem heavy for a dating profile, but it works. Dating app Plenty of Fish conducted a study of 1.2 million profiles, and those who used the word “love” in their descriptions were the most successful in engaging in romantic relationships. The words “fun” and “thoughtful” go a long way in attracting more matches, too…who doesn’t like these qualities?
And while we all love using emojis in texts and on Instagram, they aren’t so hot in your dating profile. Online daters like matches to use their words (and to use correct grammar).
Step 4: Be specific in your description.
Many people tend to go generic in their profile descriptions because they don’t want to offend. Plus, they want the widest range of matches possible. Some don’t write descriptions at all, and only offer the basics like their hometown or school, maybe a couple of interests, and not much else.
It’s better to be a bit more revealing if you want to attract more matches. Try this: instead of saying you like to travel, name your favorite destination or share the next place that you’d like to go and why. Or instead of saying you like a certain kind of music, list some of your favorite bands, artists, or share some recent concerts you attended. This gives your dates more insight and helps to strike up a conversation.
Step 5: Ask a question to invite conversation.
There are ways to talk about your preferences that are more engaging – one is to ask a question directly. For example, instead of “I would like to meet someone who enjoys travel as much as I do,” try this: “If you could go anywhere in the world, where would you go, and why?” The second question is inviting. It helps spark conversation and allows potential matches to be more creative in their responses when they message you. It also opens the door for conversation, instead of your dates feeling shut out. Think about it – the first example is somewhat vague – how much travel? Once a month? Three times a year? Do you mean road trips to Vegas or international excursions? You might turn away a great partner because of a misunderstanding or miscommunication. Don’t risk it.
Here’s a good rule of thumb for online dating in general: instead of describing yourself throughout your profile, think about what you want in a romantic partner. What’s your ultimate goal? What type of person do you most enjoy? When stay true to yourself and to your goal – to meet someone you connect with – you’ll have much more success than just trying to be a “great catch.”