Posted By: Kelly Seal Date: 04-02-2018 Comments: 0
Is dating starting to feel like a chore? If you find yourself tired or pessimistic at the idea of swiping right or meeting someone new for drinks, you might be in a dating slump. Rest assured, we’ve all been there.
It’s easy to feel down when your love life isn’t humming along as planned.
Meeting new people takes a lot of energy, and if there isn’t a connection right away you might feel like you’re wasting your time. Dating fatigue can set in after a disappointing few dates or messages that go nowhere. But to put things in perspective, it’s all part of the process. You won’t meet anybody special unless you put yourself out there, and that means you’ll likely spend time on some less-than spectacular dates. But this doesn’t mean you shouldn’t keep trying. It only takes one special person to turn things around!
If you’re looking for a fresh approach to meeting new people, you’ve got options – if you’re willing to take a little time and be more strategic about how you’re meeting people. It’s time to broaden your scope beyond swiping on Tinder in favor of three new ways to overcome a dating slump:
If you prefer to cut to the chase, matchmaking is a really effective tool you have at your disposal. And now, there are so many options available – so you can avoid breaking the bank just to get a few quality dates! You can go the traditional (expensive) route, or you can opt for a matchmaking app like Intrigued, where you can choose from a list of individual matchmakers you’d like to work with as well as how much you’re willing to spend per match.
Matchmakers are skilled practitioners who know how to ask the right questions and get a sense of the people they work with to create a better opportunity for their clients to connect. Remember to keep an open mind! You don’t usually click with someone who you think might be perfect for you on paper – often, you click best with an unexpected match. Leave it to the professionals to lift you out of your dating slump and introduce you to someone special.
Download a new app.
Tinder is ubiquitous and appeals to the masses, which means you might get lost in the shuffle. So why not try an app that is a little more specialized or thoughtful about the dating process? A great female-friendly choice is Bumble, because women are encouraged to make the first move. Guys, don’t be shy about joining – you don’t have to do all the heavy lifting! There are plenty of other options depending on your style. Coffee Meets Bagel offers more curated matches, also catering to women. The app sends 21 matches per day for guys to swipe “like” or “pass” – and from those, CMB sends the best fitting matches to each female user. OkCupid is great too, offering the chance to ask questions of potential matches, making the matchmaking process a more interactive experience. It’s worth it to explore and see what’s out there.
Network for your love life.
This isn’t as daunting as it sounds. People put a lot of time and effort into their careers, but somehow think that their love lives should miraculously fall into place. This just simply isn’t the case – finding love requires effort, too.
If you network with colleagues for your work, why not put yourself out there for your personal life? Let your friends know that you are interested in being set up, and say yes to invitations when they come your way. If there are fun events, classes, or other activities you enjoy, sign up – and introduce yourself!
You never know how you’ll meet your significant other, so leave your options open.